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    Monastery in the Home honors in a simple and personal way the 1500-year-old Benedictine tradition, and reflects the monastic impulse within most faith traditions. We believe that “the cloister way” is a call open to many. Read more >>


Perhaps you have noticed that everyone is celibate most of the time.

Although the term originally referred to the state of being unmarried, the common acceptance today infers that a person isn’t taking part in sexual intercourse.

Unless a form of Tantra Yoga is part of your practice, nearly everyone who does a spiritual or religious discipline is not partaking of that natural human activity while doing his or her practice. In simple terms, you’re celibate while honoring your participation as a home monastic.

I do not encourage you to surrender your usual interpersonal affections with your husband, wife, or partner. There’s time for that in your day, as well as time aside for your monastic spiritual practice.

Celibacy (the intentionally unmarried state) goes back to the early days of Christianity, but was not even required of priests until centuries later, when Rome became irritated that bishops and priests had become almost inherited orders. The insistence on celibacy was a way for the central church authorities to assert control and papal authority. Nothing more or less!

Whether or not you are married or intimately partnered, this Chaplain feels that you can practice fully your individual spiritual disciplines in your home, at the time and place you determine. It need not interfere with your other domestic habits or preferences.

It is essential, however, that your mate fully understands and respects your need to take this particular time alone.

+ The Chaplain